Whether it was a sudden death, or a prepaid funeral that has been expected for some time, it is always difficult to deal with the loss of a loved one. You may be feeling a lot of competing emotions at this time—which can be overwhelming and scary. Take to heart the following tips to help you get through this painful time.
Communicate your feelings
Talking can be a healing process. It can help you to work through the heartache and difficult thoughts and emotions. You may find it helpful to talk to family and friends, remembering the good times with the one that you’ve lost. For more difficult memories or emotions that you may be dealing with, you may want to consider talking with a counsellor.
Funeral directors can also be an incredibly helpful resource at a time like this. It can be very challenging when you feel like no one can possibly understand what it is you are going through. You may be feeling extremely alone at this time. Funeral directors have overseen many funerals and comforted countless individuals; they may be able to offer some advice and a helpful perspective.
Trust your instincts
Don’t worry about whether you may be crying too much or too little. Just trust whatever your natural response is and don’t bother yourself about the rest. This can also be helpful advice when it comes to planning the details of the funeral. Don’t stress too much about picking out the right coffin or headstone—just go with what feels right.
Take the time you need
There is no magic number, no special date on the calendar when everything will be normal again. Different people take different periods of time to grieve. Some will feel like they are able to go back to work straight away, while others may have difficulty focusing and interacting with others for a much longer period of time. It’s important to not hold yourself to any specific deadline, but make sure that you are taking the time to care for yourself. Remember, the healing process takes as long as it takes, and you owe it to yourself and to the person that you lost to take the time you need.
Continue to honour the memory
You may have a particularly difficult time after the funeral. This moment can feel very finalizing and you may not be ready to let go. As much as possible, try to look back on the memory of your lost loved one with a smile. If you can, visit their final resting place, and leave flowers or letters on the headstone. As long as you honour their memory, you’ll never have to truly say goodbye.
Helping you say goodbye
If you are looking to arrange a funeral service or ceremony in the Branford area, consider Hey Funerals. Our team is experienced and respectful and will help make sure that your loved one’s best wishes are kept in mind. Contact us on 01274 571021 or firstname.lastname@example.org.